Are you getting to the point in your pregnancy where you’re thinking about birth? Looking for actionable ways to prepare for labor so that you can feel more confident when the day arrives?
Girl, you are in the right place! As a labor and delivery nurse, I know that there is a LOT of info out there regarding birth preparations. And it can be tricky to take it all in and weed through what’s actually necessary to do and what’s not.
In a perfect world, I think we would all try to do #allthethings, but that’s just not possible for a lot of us. So today, I boiled it down to 10 things you can do to prepare for labor and birth. Things that will have a positive impact on your birth and transition into motherhood, and things I don’t want you to skip!
Ready mama? Let’s go!
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This seemingly simple labor prep tip packs a serious punch! If you can stay positive in your mindset and vision for your upcoming birth, I can guarantee it will be better. I’m going to be honest – this whole buzz word notion of ~*manifesting*~ isn’t something that comes naturally to me.
But there is no doubt in my mind that the mindset you bring to your birth is going to impact your perception of the experience.
What do I mean by this? Well, simply having a positive mindset probably can’t reduce your risk of something unexpected happening (ie: an unplanned C-section or a stalled labor), but it can help you approach unexpected outcomes with grace and a sense of peace.
What’s more – a positive mindset can help with your perception of the pain of labor, too! In fact, that’s one of the big principles of hypnobirthing.
If we change our attitude towards birth (and the pain especially), and even the terminology we use to describe birth (for example calling them surges or waves vs. contractions), we will be better prepared to handle the pain.
I see a lot of birth prep checklists out there, but I often DON’T see this item on them, and I think it’s so important. It may seem obvious but working through and planning out the logistics surrounding birth can eliminate so much mental burden from your mind (thus leading to the positive mindset in tip #1!)
The thing about birth for anyone that’s NOT having a planned induction or planned C-section is that we don’t know when it’s going to happen. For a lot of us, that makes us feel a lack of control, and can even provoke a sense of paralysis in the planning department.
But actually, you CAN plan for the logistics of heading to the hospital and being away for a few days during your hospital stay. Here’s a little list of logistics to plan for and other tips to reduce planning stress:
This way, you’ll know exactly where to park, where you can get dropped off, and which door to enter. You can get a sense of how long it takes to get there, and the best route to take.
I know a lot of people don’t regularly go to their local hospital, and their appointments are at another location – so don’t make your first trip to the hospital while you’re in labor.
Oh! And definitely ask if there is a different entrance during overnight hours at one of your prenatal appointments so that you can check that out too!
Once you install it, it’ll be waiting and ready when you need it. What’s more, by getting it done early, you can have it inspected for safety.
Usually, local fire departments or your town hall have a car seat safety technician available on certain days of the month. Check your town’s website or make a call to find out!
Or keep it in some other easy to access spot! You want this to be super easy to grab when labor begins and eliminate it from your mental load by getting it done early.
We’ll go over what should be in it in the next tip!
Okay, this can be one of the most stressful logistics to plan for, but it’s not impossible! The biggest thing to make sure of is that you have someone on-call OVERNIGHT! Ask them to keep their phone on loud and near where they sleep from 37 weeks on, just in case. This was my biggest worry as a second-time mom re: my first.
And if you really don’t have anyone local that you can coordinate for childcare, this is one of the instances where an elective induction might make sense. It’s never something I recommend lightly, but I understand it’s a reality for some of you.
You might also consider looking into childcare options on a site like Care.com. If you start looking early in your third trimester, you can take the time to find a wonderful caregiver and have plenty of meetings with them so that everyone feels comfortable with the plan.
Similarly, if you have pets that will need care while you’re at the hospital giving birth, coordinate this ahead of time, too. You’ll need to find someone that is available on-call and has a flexible schedule!
If you are going to need someone to care for your pet or other children, create a little cheat sheet/info guide for them about your house. Include important safety information, details about sleep/nap/eating schedules, foods they like, places to go, etc.
This will be especially important if the caregivers are from out of town, or don’t typically spend extended periods of time with your other children (or pets!).
You can also include information such as when trash pick-up happens, any household help that comes, errand/grocery lists if they’re looking for ways to be helpful, and chores they can do around the house to help prepare for you to bring baby home.
On a basic level, most pregnant mamas know they need a hospital bag. Just like you’d pack for any 2-3 day trip away from the house, right? Well, yes, but when it comes to your hospital bag, you want to put a little more thought into it.
I have an entire article with hospital bag checklists for mom, partner, and baby that you can check out, but here’s a quick rundown and some tips:
An alternative title for this tip would be to prepare physically! When it comes to preparing your body for labor, there are a few things to consider:
So, you might be wondering how to the heck to get that done? Let’s unpack each physical preparation for labor a little bit more:
As your due date gets closer, some changes are occurring inside of your body (usually without you even knowing!) that help your body push out a baby.
This includes ripening, where your cervix gets softer, effacement, where your cervix gets thinner, and dilation, where it starts opening up (this is the one we hear most about!).
For many women, these things will happen naturally, but there are a number of things that you can do to encourage these physical changes and help promote spontaneous labor. This includes drinking red raspberry leaf tea, eating dates, and using certain supplements like primrose oil!
Read More Details: 6 Natural Ways to Induce Labor
This is another key way to prepare your body for labor. Because if baby is in a head-down position, looking at your back (known as an OA position), you will increase your odds of spontaneous labor. This is because baby’s head will actually help do those three things I talked about above (ripen, efface, and dilate). Yup! It’s true!
There are a number of movements and methods that can help get baby’s head down and engaged. A few I always tell mamas about are curb walking, The Miles Circuit, and forward-leaning inversion.
And of course, I can’t talk about physical labor prep without talking a little bit about fitness. Did you guys know that there are a TON of research-backed benefits of prenatal fitness related to birth? A few of my favorite points include:
Birth plans are something that I encourage every pregnant mama to create! Whether you have a strong birth vision, aren’t totally sure, are scheduled for an induction, or even have a planned C-section, there is so much value in the PROCESS of creating a birth plan.
A good birth plan template will alert you to choices and options you may not have known existed. It’ll spark knowledge and curiosity, and begin to remove some of the uknowns of birth. It’s a wonderful jumping off point for dialogue and conversation with your provider. And it’s also a great way to make sure your partner or other support person is on the same page as you.
But the big caveat here is to remember that a birth plan is not a binding contract! Keep that positive mindset that we talked about in tip #1 (and add in a healthy dose of flexibility) in place to make sure that your birth plan enhances your experience (and helps you visual alternative outcomes), instead of making your birth wishes more rigid.
Read more tips and info for getting the most out of your birth plan! And be sure to snag the FREE Mommy Labor Nurse birth plan before you go >>
No prepare-for-labor guide would be complete without advice to take a childbirth class. I am a firm believer in the power of education when it comes to birth, and the best way to KNOW you’re learning what you actually need is with a comprehensive, high-quality, expert-taught birth class.
The good news is that in today’s day and age, that DOESN’T mean dragging yourself to a hospital-hosted birth class at 7pm to sit in uncomfortable chairs, or to an all-day-event where you don’t retain any of the information.
Online birth classes make it SO easy to get totally educated and prepared for birth on your schedule, from the comfort of your own home.
Learn more about my online birth classes and take a proactive step towards erasing the unknown and having a better birth today!
Related Reading: Are Birth Classes Necessary?
A story that I often tell is how much I prepared MYSELF for labor and birth (yes, even as a labor and delivery nurse) but how little I did to prepare my husband before our first son was born. Honestly, I took it for granted that he’d know what to expect, and didn’t encourage any kind of concrete prep for him.
This was a big mistake! He had no idea what to expect when we were in it and felt totally lost on how to support me when he saw me in so much pain.
So, learn from my mistake and help your partner prepare, too. Here are some things you can do:
It’s all well and good to read about pain coping strategies, breathing techniques, relaxation techniques, etc. but if you don’t practice them, it can be really hard to put them to use when you’re actually experiencing the pain of labor.
I love to tell mamas to practice their breathing and relaxation techniques while holding an ice cube! It gets real uncomfortable, forcing you to put a lot of mental effort into using your strategies.
Read more about: Breathing and Relaxation Techniques for Birth
I think a lot of you can agree that when things feel organized and accounted for, our minds can better relax. And that’s probably where a lot of the nesting instinct comes from! We want to feel like everything is totally ready so that our minds aren’t cluttered with to-dos.
So, I say as you work on prepping for labor and birth, lean into the nesting instinct and get your house totally organized, stocked, and prepared to bring home your new baby.
To round out this list on preparing for labor and birth, I want to make sure you give some attention to postpartum prep too. Stocking your house with postpartum essentials and doing some things ahead of time to make your transition into life with a baby easier are two super valuable things you can do!
Here’s what I recommend:
With this list as your guide, you’ll be well on your way to a more confident birth! These actionable tips will get you totally prepared and ready to rock your birth in no time.